What is Domestic Abuse?
Domestic Violence is when your partner or any other family member abuses you psychologically, emotionally, physically, sexually or financially. It can be one single incident or repeated abuse but usually it is a pattern of behaviour. If you feel intimidated by or frightened of your partner to the point where you feel that you have to change your behaviour you may be experiencing domestic violence.
Sexual Violence includes child sexual abuse, sexual assault, sexual exploitation, prostitution, female genital mutilation, rape etc. Whenever it happened, whether repeated or a single incident, if it is against your will it is not acceptable.
If you feel that your partner is intimidating you, if you're afraid that your partner's reaction will be aggressive or if you have been affected by sexual abuse then pick up the phone and call one of the support agencies below.
In an emergency call the police on 999.
Are you being abused?
If you answer 'Yes' to any of the following questions you could be in an abusive relationship or your relationship could become abusive. If you are concerned, please contact one of the support agencies below.
- Do you feel nervous around your partner?
- Does your partner hit, shove or punch you?
- Does your partner put you down, call you names or humiliate you?
- Are you scared of disagreeing with your partner?
- Does your partner prevent you from seeing friends or family?
- Are you made to feel guilty about the children, or has your partner threatened to take the children away?
- Does your partner have control over the finances and control what you spend?
- Do you often do things to please your partner rather than to please yourself?
- Do you feel that with them nothing you do is ever good enough?
- Do you make excuses for their behaviour (e.g. because of alcohol or drugs)?
- Do they tell you that the abuse is your fault?
Did you know?
- 1 in 4 women will experience domestic abuse by their partner or ex-partner at some time in their life.
- Domestic abuse can also affect men, 1 in 6 will experience domestic abuse at some time in their life.
- Women of all ethnic groups, cultures, age, physical ability, class, religious backgrounds and sexual preference can be affected.
- Domestic violence occurs every 6 to 20 seconds. The police can receive an estimated 1,300 calls a day.
- The abuse is not your fault.
- The abuser needs to take responsibility for the abuse.
- You deserve respect.
- There is no excuse for abuse - it is not acceptable or excusable.
- You are not alone.
IN AN EMERGENCY DON'T DELAY DIAL 999